Words to know
electronic communication technology
Tools for sending and sharing messages and media: phones, texting, social media, video calls, online games with chat.
digital footprint
The record of everything you post, share, like and search, which can be copied and can last a long time.
privacy settings
Controls that limit who can see your posts, contact you, or find your location.
sexting
Sending, receiving or forwarding sexual messages, photos or videos by phone or online.
sextortion
Threatening to share someone's sexual images unless they send more images, money or something else. It is a crime.
grooming
When someone builds trust with a young person (with attention, gifts, flattery or secrecy) in order to exploit or abuse them.
pornography
Sexually explicit material made for adults. It does not show realistic, respectful relationships or consent.
A note before you start
This lesson deals with a serious topic. Take breaks if you need them. If anything in it reminds you of something hard in your own life, talk to a trusted adult, or contact Kids Help Phone (call 1-800-668-6868 or text CONNECT to 686868, any time, free and confidential).
Your phone: a pocket-sized superpower
With a phone you can video-call a cousin in another province, learn guitar from a video, find a bus route, organize a team practice and share your art with the world. The same tools can also bring harmful content, unwanted contact, bullying and privacy problems into your life.
The Grade 9 curriculum asks you to demonstrate an understanding of the benefits and risks of using electronic communication technologies (for example, easy access to useful information and entertainment but also to harmful or undesirable information and entertainment, such as pornography; enhanced ability to stay in touch with friends but also increased possibility of exposure to sexual predators, bullying, and sexting; ability to communicate one's thoughts and creative efforts to the rest of the world but also increased potential for loss of privacy) and describe strategies that they can apply to ensure their safety while using these technologies (C1.2).
Remember from Grade 8
In Grade 8 you practised assessing situations for danger in person and online, including sextortion and requests for images, and made an exit plan. In Grade 9 you look at the full picture: the benefits and the risks of the technology itself, and a toolkit of safety strategies.
The risks, explained
Harmful or undesirable content. The internet includes violent content, hate, dangerous "challenges", misinformation, and pornography. Pornography is made for adults; it shows unrealistic and often disrespectful ideas about bodies, sex and relationships, and usually leaves out consent, communication and protection. It is not a guide to real, healthy relationships. If you see something upsetting, close it and talk to a trusted adult. That's not getting in trouble; it's getting support.
Sexual predators. Some adults (and sometimes older teens) use games, chats and social media to groom young people: lots of attention and compliments, gifts or game currency, asking to move to a private app, asking you to keep secrets, then asking for images. Warning signs: someone you've never met in person who seems "too perfect", asks personal questions, wants secrecy, or asks for photos.
Bullying. Online bullying can happen 24/7, reach many people fast and be anonymous.
Sexting. In Canada, sending or sharing a sexual image or video of anyone under 18 is a crime under child pornography laws, even if the person in it is a teen who took it of themselves, and so is having such images of other people. Sharing an intimate image of anyone without their consent is also a crime. Once an image is sent, you lose control of it.
Loss of privacy. Posts, screenshots and location data can be copied and kept. Your digital footprint can affect friendships, school, teams and future jobs.
Worked exampleLet's spot grooming in a game chat
Dylan, 14, meets "Jay" in an online game. Jay says he's 15, gifts Dylan game skins, compliments his skills, then says: "Let's chat on a private app. Don't tell your parents, they won't get it." A week later Jay asks for a shirtless photo "for fun". What warning signs do you see, and what should Dylan do?
- Gifts and flattery to build trust quickly.
- Moving to a private app, away from moderated spaces.
- Secrecy: "don't tell your parents" is a major red flag.
- Request for an image, slowly testing boundaries.
- Response: don't send anything; stop replying; take note of the username and messages; block and report in the game and app; tell a parent or trusted adult; report to Cybertip.ca.
These are classic grooming signs. Dylan isn't in trouble and did nothing wrong by being friendly. The right move is to stop, block, report and tell an adult.
Check your understandingQuiz
1. Which is a risk of electronic communication named in the curriculum?
2. Which is a warning sign of online grooming?
3. In Canada, a sexual image of someone under 18...
4. What is the best first response to a sextortion threat?
5. Which strategy best protects an account?
6. Which website helps teens stop the spread of their sexual images?
For parents and teachersAbout this content: This lesson covers C1.2 in the Personal Safety and Injury Prevention topic and quotes its wording, including the curriculum's examples of pornography, sexual predators, bullying and sexting. These are discussed factually, with a focus on safety and getting help. No humour block is included because of the topic.
Big idea: demonstrate an understanding of the benefits and risks of using electronic communication technologies... and describe strategies that they can apply to ensure their safety while using these technologies (C1.2).
Facts used: Canada's Criminal Code child pornography provisions cover distributing sexual images of anyone under 18 (including self-made images) and possessing such images of others (courts have recognized only a narrow exception for private images that are never shared), and it is a crime to share intimate images of anyone without consent; NeedHelpNow.ca and Cybertip.ca are run by the Canadian Centre for Child Protection; Ontario's cellphone restrictions in schools took effect September 2024.
How to help at home:
- Promise your teen that telling you about something upsetting online will not lead to punishment or losing their phone. Fear of losing devices is a main reason teens stay silent.
- Do the privacy check-up together.
- Talk calmly about sextortion; teens should know it's a crime against them and that adults will help.
Common difficulties: believing self-made images are legal; thinking private accounts are fully safe; blaming victims of image sharing.